People addiction.

People addiction.

Many people believe that we as human beings are only addicts if we abuse drugs or drink till we drop. Some people eat till they die, or don’t eat till they die or watch pornography until they become destructive, demeaning, desensitized, sub humans. These addictions are common enough unfortunately, but today I’m bringing into awareness the problem of people addiction or relationship addiction. (This is just the start)

Some men/women have the charms to manipulate such a relationship where the partner will become addicted to them, they will deliver all of their irresistible charms to capture their prize. ( this kind of person also has a soul sickness)

I want to make it clear here that their is no difference in gendre. I will use the masculine from here on in for easier writing.

When he ignores her, abuses her, cheats on her, or uses her, she can simply just decide to try harder, put more energy into the relationship, and take better care of him. She believes that if she does this, eventually he will notice and will see how valuable she is, and then he will fall on his knees in gratitude and treat her like a queen, just like he did in the beginning…….Dream on!!

The fact is such a woman with a commitment to such a man, her dedication to being a proper wife/friend/lover has allowed such fairy tales to distort their sense of reality. The reality is that she is doomed to a lifetime of abuse and disappointment until "death do us part." This is a soul sickness in her; and she in turn becomes addicted to him. She has to fill the ‘hole in her soul’ with love, which she will not find in this kind of a relationship.

I have seen this kind of relationship in parents & children, husbands and wives, between siblings. The more dominant sibling will taunt and abuse the weaker one until the weaker is addicted to making the older sibling happy. Unfortunately this makes for more abusive relationships later on in life.

The unfortunate thing about addiction is that until the realization of such deficiencies in us are noticed and dealt with we will keep making the same mistake in every relationship that we have, until the problem is recognized.

Relationships can become some of the hardest parts of our lives and there are many 12 step groups to help us in these areas or to make an appointment with a good counselor or therapist who you can trust to help you to overcome these issues.